Insights and advice on the art and science of communicating well
Mastering Clarity in Communication: Insights from Chapter 2 of the Amazon bestseller, You Don’t Say
Effective communication is the cornerstone of successful relationships, whether personal or professional. In Chapter 2 of You Don’t Say, the focus is on the crucial skill of saying what you mean. This chapter delves into the importance of clarity in communication and provides actionable strategies for ensuring that your messages are both understood and impactful.…
Read MoreTraining Others to Communicate with You: It is Your Responsibility Not Theirs
Effective communication is vital for building strong relationships, whether in personal or professional settings. However, getting others to communicate with you in a way that feels right can sometimes be challenging. Training people to understand and adapt to your preferred communication style involves a blend of communication science principles and a human-centric approach. Here’s a…
Read MoreHow attached are you? Understanding attachment styles and their Impact on communication
Attachment styles, a concept rooted in psychological research, significantly influence how we interact and communicate with others. These styles, developed early in life through interactions with caregivers, shape our approach to relationships and communication throughout adulthood. Understanding attachment styles can offer profound insights into our communication patterns and help us foster healthier, more effective interactions.…
Read MoreWhere We Learn to Communicate: From Family to Work and Beyond
Communication is a fundamental skill that shapes our relationships and interactions throughout life. We learn how to communicate from various sources: our family, friends, workplaces, and social environments. While these sources provide valuable lessons, they can also impart less effective communication habits. Understanding where we learn communication and recognizing the pitfalls can help us improve…
Read MoreEmbracing Communication Vulnerability: Building Safety, Security, Trust, and Support
In today’s fast-paced world, where digital interactions often take precedence over face-to-face conversations, the concept of communication vulnerability is more crucial than ever. Communication vulnerability involves opening up and sharing our true selves, our fears, and our needs with others. But for this vulnerability to be effective and meaningful, several foundational elements must be in…
Read MoreCommunication reveals what is in the heart
Body language, behavior, and words we choose to use are byproducts of thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The two are inextricably linked. It is inevitable that what we feel inside will eventually come out. It can come out by shouting at people who have no idea of what is going on. It can come out by…
Read MoreThe holidays may not joyful for everyone
When the colors of the leaves change and the temperature drops outside and we roll the clocks back one hour, to many of us that signals the holiday season is approaching. We may start planning holiday meals or scribble lists of gifts we plan to give over the next several months. It can be a…
Read MoreWrite this to change your communication habits
It is easy to believe that communication is primarily vocal. However, communication can be complicated as it is comprised of many factors that we observe to make meaning of what we are seeing and hearing. For example, we consider body language, voice tone, vocal variety, and actual words, among other things. However, reflecting on communication…
Read MoreWhat we communicate to ourselves matters more than what others communicate to us
The concept of “self-talk,” or carrying on an internal conversation with oneself, can be leveraged for our advantage. While the definition of “self-talk” has great debate, there is some agreement that self-talk affects our impulses, actions, and even achievement of goals. It may also influence emotional reactions. Simply put, self-talk impacts what we do and…
Read MoreDeath is certain. So why do we avoid communicating about it?
We cannot leave this world other than through death. In fact, 100% of people will face this reality. Death is a certainty. Yet there is a great deal of uncertainty, fear, and anxiety surrounding conversations around death. How we would like to be cared for when health conditions change is also cause for discussion. Why…
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